Catha Ik kan dat niet tekenen. En dan bedoel ik dat ik niet mensen wil uitsluiten om hun beroep. 'Trump is onschendbaar dus pakken we gewoon zijn mensen.' Doorschuifpolitiek. Jou broer is de dader maar omdat we daar niet aan kunnen pakken we jou.
Waar ligt dan de grens...

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Catha Alle 3 frans.

Catha Oeps... 1 x was wel genoeg he 🤭
De geneugten van slecht internet. Alles in meervoud of helemaal niks. 🤣

dansant @Catha
Ik heb uitstekend internet, maar vanochtend had ik hetzelfde probleem in JustBsocial.

Catha @dansant , @redegelde zat vast met het aan/uit knopje te spelen. 😆

redegelde Was planning to go there last year with my son. But tourist regulations. I refuse to give 5 years back social details. Madness

CDCHDCLNL Well done! Hard but there’s no other way in this moment to block it.

Catha I am sorry about your experience, about how you feel/felt, but, at the risk of upsetting people... your experiemce might be recognizable for many, for a lot of others it migt be totally different.
Also, national or international, many adoptees have the same quesrions and feelings. But in most countries national adoption is way too dificult and/or with really ridiculous rules to make an adoption possible. And most of the time the 'demand' is much higher than there are possible adoptees, since many countriese - amongst them the Netherkands - have a fostercare program.
How about those who want kidds but can't have them of their own? Why should they not be allowed to adopt (a chikd living in an orfanato? ) Why are they not allowed to have kids although there are so manny kids withouth family / family who won't/can't take care of them?
Imo the lacking continuous follow-up for the adoptee and also for the adoptive parent(s) is the base of many problems. They drop a child with someone like 'Here you go,. Bye.' The make so many rules for adoptove parenta but none for themselves, none for the continuous wellbeing of both parent(s) amd child.

CDCHDCLNL Absolutely right. To the question of why some married couples should not become parents? Otherwise, nature would have arranged things differently. I came into a family that had certainly already suffered seven miscarriages. The mother was seriously ill with kidney problems. Of course, this could never be spoken of, just like the word 'adoption' later on. Then there was the absolute overload of having a child who was no longer a baby – who had had a pretty bad life, since the time after my mother died when I was 6 month old (first passed around within the family – which was really great at first, but then it became too much for another mother – and later in diefferent foster familie, two were absolutely horrible - through the church. But the church listened and saved me and found another solution with the orphanage). Shortly before the adoption, a German teacher family prepared me for adoption. If I hadn't been adopted, they would have submitted an application; they already had children, one of whom was disabled. )
In fact – on whom the adoptive mother took out all her frustration with violence. She wanted to give me back, she said. First I had fear- then came indifference—and as a boy, I would certainly have become one of the bullies, solely because of her. I wasn't allowed to share my past with anyone, nor the word 'adoption' or my nightmares over the years. That's why people like that should never adopt. Violence comes with being overwhelmed, which many unfortunately only learn too late. I should have stayed in the orphanage. I had friends there, knew the jokes and was actually much happier than here. The staff were strict but also kind. Here, I am just an adapted person and no longer my true self.

Catha "Nature takes aee of it" is a bit too harsh imo...
I come from a loving, caring family. I am replacing the love for a child to my nusband and - despite allergies and asma - 2 cats. Because, as you put it, nature took care of it. I was bold enoigh to dare to name rhe 4th. Fleur, a girlsname but still after me dad. And yet she too had to leace us before she was born.
I am 55 now, and it still hurts. Especially in a country where kids are everything. She would have been 18 this year..
Nature 'taking care of it' has nothibng to do at all with good parenting.
Adoption in Belgium is also not easy. We were rejected. Why? Because at the probable date of final procedures, my husbamd would have rached the expiration date. At 42 and older apparently you're no longer a good parent...
I coild have adopted on my own. But we wanted real ffamily, not a 'devided in name and paper-family ... '
Sorry for the typos. Emotions hace their effect on aetritis and eyesigth.
And ps: no hard feelings opinions can and should differ. Otherwise the world would be all grey. I am just glad here it can be said without promptly being bombed with alm bad words a dictionary contains 🙃
Respecting an opinion is not the same as understanding it. But it helps keep the world a nice place.